Self Portrait | #LoveYourSelfie – Reflections on Self Portraiture


December 31, 2016

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Self Portrait – The Art of Empowerment

“I’m obsessed with becoming a woman comfortable in her own skin.”

Selfies. Oh the stigma behind them. “All she ever does is post and take selfies.” or “She’s so full of herself. Look at all the fish lip/chest-booty out selfies she is filling her Facebook wall with.” Many think that it’s a way for a woman with low-self esteem looking desperately to social media for compliments to build her ego. It’s often looked at as being vain or narcissistic. But we already deal with enough in today’s culture of perfection, why do we need to feel bad about loving ourself and finding beauty in what we were given?

 I will admittedly disclose when I first started putting my “big girl camera” on a tripod, it was around the time I had split with my ex and I wanted to have some nice photos to lure in the next potential man. I knew I wasn’t perfect, so I wanted to be able to have control over the lighting, angles, and taking as many photos as I could until I found one that would suffice. But over time, I started to realize it became quite helpful for me with coaching many of my boudoir clients with posing, as I had some practice with posing myself in front of my lens. I knew what made me feel my best in photos, so it helped me to direct others. And as time went on, it made me more inclined to play a bit more often with self-portraiture so as to work with different scenarios see how I could manipulate light and angles.

As time continued on, it actually became less about me trying to look good in a photo for someone else, but more about telling a story of self-expression. I found myself starting to embrace who I was as a woman.  Also who I was becoming…despite the pounds that start to creep on over the years, or the wrinkles and strands of grey that seem to pop up more often now. And you know what? If I’m feeling pretty with my hair freshly colored, or my makeup professionally done, why do I need to feel guilty about it? I realized that I shouldn’t. And as I started to have more confidence with myself, guess what? I started to push myself more. Things that would scare me because I was afraid of what people might think of me if I attempted? Now I say, “fuck them!” and do it. It’s EMPOWERING to know if you just have a little confidence in yourself, you can accomplish so.much.more!

So with 2017 knocking on the door, don’t expect me to stop taking selfies…because I won’t.
But who’s going to come along and join me for the #LoveYourSelfie2017 ride?
I sure hope you do! Xx

Are you interested in learning about how to take a better self-portrait? Or maybe getting in front of my camera to feel empowered with a boudoir session?



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  1. Tiffany Walensky says:

    Oh Tami these are stunning! You are a selfie master! <3

    • tami says:

      Thank you, Tiffany! You are too kind! I’ve definitely gotten better with practice! Can’t wait to see what you create for the Self 26 project! <3

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